Erinn SouleWhen is it stalking? Not just jealousy!
March 9th 2008 15:25
One thing I never realized about "blogging", writing articles or just being a writer at all, people get wierd! I have had a website as a business for many years and recently decided to change my direction a bit...writing.
It seems as soon as I started posting articles on the internet, writing blogs or even using simple myspace to post bulletins and such, I started having my very own "stalker". OK, maybe "heckler is a better term, I don't know.
Well that is what brought me to this post today. When is it stalking and not just jealousy? A believe there are a few things to watch for before running to your local police crying wolf.
Is the harrassment, really harrassment? I mean let's be real here. If you are a writer, if you post bulletins on myspace or have an email list of a zillion, probably you (like me) love the attention! Am I right? Be honest.
Is this "stalker" letting out little hints as to whom they may be? mine does. Watch the signs closely to determine if it is something important or just a simple minded fool jealous of your ability to creatively bring your thoughts out.
1. Do they threaten or just "trash" you a bit? Threatening now days can be considered a "terrorist threat" in the eyes of the law. Bodily harm or death threats even on paper are considered this type of threat. "trash talking" you, ahh just a jealous friend or foe.
2. Do they seem to find every single post you have, oh yes, mine did. If I wrote a new article, they knew about it before it was even published it seemed. If I posted on Myspace, they stayed clear of commenting there but would go and post some stupid comment on the online article or blog, posting on myspace would be too easily identifiable
This type of "stalker" just may be harmless. However, I would like to note for safety reasons, if it feels scary, most likely it is. Pay close attention to this, especially if a child is involved. Pedophiles prey on children this way, watching them from a distance.
3. Do they know personal information about you, that only YOU or someone close to you would know? Have you disclosed too many things about you that would make you easibly read? Be careful about this, I do it all the time and often have to go back and change some information.
Lastly I wish to add, some sites will "create" their own hecklers, to draw more attention to a published writer or their own website traffic. Posts and blogs are so much more entertaining when there is drama behind it. So pay attention and don't call out the dogs until you absolutely have to. Enjoy the satisfaction of knowing someone is paying that much attention to your work.
It seems as soon as I started posting articles on the internet, writing blogs or even using simple myspace to post bulletins and such, I started having my very own "stalker". OK, maybe "heckler is a better term, I don't know.
Well that is what brought me to this post today. When is it stalking and not just jealousy? A believe there are a few things to watch for before running to your local police crying wolf.
Is the harrassment, really harrassment? I mean let's be real here. If you are a writer, if you post bulletins on myspace or have an email list of a zillion, probably you (like me) love the attention! Am I right? Be honest.
Is this "stalker" letting out little hints as to whom they may be? mine does. Watch the signs closely to determine if it is something important or just a simple minded fool jealous of your ability to creatively bring your thoughts out.
1. Do they threaten or just "trash" you a bit? Threatening now days can be considered a "terrorist threat" in the eyes of the law. Bodily harm or death threats even on paper are considered this type of threat. "trash talking" you, ahh just a jealous friend or foe.
2. Do they seem to find every single post you have, oh yes, mine did. If I wrote a new article, they knew about it before it was even published it seemed. If I posted on Myspace, they stayed clear of commenting there but would go and post some stupid comment on the online article or blog, posting on myspace would be too easily identifiable
This type of "stalker" just may be harmless. However, I would like to note for safety reasons, if it feels scary, most likely it is. Pay close attention to this, especially if a child is involved. Pedophiles prey on children this way, watching them from a distance.3. Do they know personal information about you, that only YOU or someone close to you would know? Have you disclosed too many things about you that would make you easibly read? Be careful about this, I do it all the time and often have to go back and change some information.
Lastly I wish to add, some sites will "create" their own hecklers, to draw more attention to a published writer or their own website traffic. Posts and blogs are so much more entertaining when there is drama behind it. So pay attention and don't call out the dogs until you absolutely have to. Enjoy the satisfaction of knowing someone is paying that much attention to your work.
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